Romance

Los Angeles

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How break up with someone  — @undefined's mag on Magma

San Diego

<h1>1. Make quality time for one another. </h1>
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<p>The more quality time you spend together, the better your relationship will be. Schedule weekly date nights to have fun together as a couple rather than as parents. </p>

<h1>2. Find out what your partner wants and needs. </h1>
<p>We are so focused on the kids that we neglect our partners. </p>
<p>Tip: Make them feel special and plan a day doing all their favorite things.</p>

<h1>3. Don’t forget the most important relationship in the house is the one with your spouse. </h1>
<p>You may think your number one priority should be your kids, but keep in mind your relationship drastically effects your children and their happiness. If you’re happy their happy, if you and your spouse are fighting they feel anxious.</p>

Top tips for a happy relationship — @undefined's mag on Magma

Parenting

Beverly Hills

<h2>Nothing can prepare you for being a parent. It’s really a learn as you go situation I’ve found. Every week your baby is getting to know the world and you are getting to know your baby and learning how to be a parent. That being said don’t be so hard on yourself, your baby has no idea what their doing either 😂 </h2>
<h2>Here are some things that I’ve discovered these past 5 months that can hopefully help you too! </h2>

<p>We started her at one month old doing one one on one zoom sessions with <a href="https://kkonlineswimlessons.com">K &amp; K online swim. </a> </p>
<p>Some benefits of swimming: </p>
<ul>
  <li>Swimming lessons reduces a child’s risk of drowning by 88%. </li>
  <li>By the age of 5, infant swimmers have better grasping, movement, and balancing skills than their peers.</li>
  <li>Swimming also activates both hemispheres at the same time, increasing cognition and ease in learning new material.</li>
</ul>

<p>We used the book 12 hours’ sleep by 12 weeks old book. This book saved our life and helped us sleep train our baby (we did it in 14 weeks though because we wanted to wait until she was 14 pounds to take away the last feeding.) It makes it super easy to do and follow and if you’re consistent, it’s super successful. She now consistently sleeps 12 hours a night. It is LIFE.</p>

<p>From the day she came home from the hospital she slept in here every night we put the doctor inside of the bassinet and shes super comfy. When it came time to move her into her room, we put the docatot inside her crib and she didn’t know the difference. </p>

<p>We recently just took the docatot away because she rolls over. </p>
<p>To remove the docatot we took the foam noodle part out of the docatot and put it underneath the sheet in the shape of the docatot. Each night we opened the U shape a little wider until we finally took it away. It worked great! </p>

<p>Baby’s nails grow crazy fast! It was impossible for me to cut her nails because she’s always moving but she’s much more relaxed with the file and it’s much quicker and safer.</p>

New mom tips! — @undefined's mag on Magma

<h1>Don’t feel like you need to put your love life on hold right now, in some ways it’s even better! Here are some benefits:</h1>
<h2>1. Instead of awkward first dates, you can now FaceTime from the comfort of your home which will make you be more relaxed and yourself. </h2>
<h2>2. It forces you to take things slow and really get to know the person.</h2>
<h2>3. You can establish your emotional connection before getting physical. There’s no pressure of should I kiss him or her or go back to their place. </h2>
<h2>4. There’s also no financial pressure of taking people out on dates you’re not sure about.</h2>
<h2>5. Since everything is shut down you have more time on your hands to talk and get to know one another. </h2>

Covid dating benefits — @undefined's mag on Magma

Travel

<h2>Now more than ever it’s essential to keep in mind our mental health is just as important as our physical health. </h2>
<h2>Between being super preggo and now with a newborn during this pandemic, we’ve been pretty cooped up. Our family got covid tested so we could all be together and have a fun little getaway at my parents house in San Diego and it was everything we needed and more. Feeling recharged!</h2>

<p>Even though a lot of places are closed now, you can still get out and have fun in a safe way. </p>
<p>We went for a beautiful walk around Miramar lake. They have a dirt trail you can walk or a paved road.</p>
<p>There is no better medicine than nature!</p>

Miramar Reservoir

Mission Bay

<p>We Picked up fish burritos￼ from La Playa and had a picnic on the beach￼. </p>
<p>Then we took out a catamaran from Mission Bay sports center where my husband and I used to work. They have all kinds of boats and jet skis you can rent￼!</p>

<h1>Pool Day</h1>
<p>We had a relaxing day just laying by the pool. We packed snacks and soaked in the Vitamin D!</p>

<h2>We spent lots of time just being together and snuggling!! </h2>

<h2>Our baby Rio finally got to meet her aunties and cousin and had the best time visiting her grandparents!</h2>

SD Getaway — @undefined's mag on Magma

Wellness

<h1>Tips that have helped me stay sane during this <strong>quarantine</strong>.</h1>
<p><strong>1. Focus on your relationship </strong>- work on making your relationship foundation strong before adding to it. To see tips to keep your relationship alive in quarantine <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B_nlnUsFKlW/?igshid=h9nnt3bxiprm">click here </a></p>
<p>2. <strong>Prep</strong> - use this time to get your birth plan together, pack your hospital bag, start ordering necessities and getting your nursery together.</p>
<p><strong>3. Relaxation </strong>- make time each day to do something for your mind like mediation, yoga, take a bath, or go for a walk.</p>
<p><strong>4. Control what’s in your control</strong>- so much is out of our control at this point so focus on what you can control. Stay healthy, exercise, maintain a healthy diet, and get enough sleep.</p>

Preg in a pandemic — @undefined's mag on Magma

<h1>How to make sure your relationship survives quarantine ⭣ ⭣ ⭣</h1>
<h2>❥ Make alone time for yourselves each day. If you have kids take turns giving each other a break.</h2>
<h2>❥Be intimate. It’s important not to get stuck in only eating no makeup and Netflix mode with your partner and keep the fire alive 🔥</h2>
<h2>❥Don’t pick fights. Quarantine is not the time to start petty arguments. That being said, if there’s an issue, don’t keep it bottled up.</h2>
<h2>❥DIY or work on a fun project for your place. This will not only be fun and pass the time, but will also help you work on communication.</h2>

Survive Quarantine  — @undefined's mag on Magma

Health

Beverlywood

<h1>I’ve been thinking about all of the positives this past week:</h1>
<p>1. I’ve been able to appreciate nature and going on walks. Normally I would just go to an indoor workout class. </p>
<p>2. Because I wanted to use up all my fresh produce first, I’ve barely eaten anything processed. Normally I would go for the processed first because it’s easier.</p>
<p>3. We’ve been Marie Kondoing our entire place (something I would never be able to get the hubs to do with me and something I was always too busy to do)</p>
<p>4. I work from home so it wasn’t so different for me but I’ve gotten to spend quality time with <a href="magma://users/OKasHv0gfSQySAgMo7EMqPscKQp1">@lee </a> who’s working from home as well.</p>
<p>5. I’ve been repurposing meals and using all my produce. Normally I hate eating leftovers and let it go to waste. Now I made plain cous cous for example and for the next few days I played with adding different dressings and different veggies to it.</p>
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<h2>What are some positives you’ve seen this week?</h2>

The bright side  — @undefined's mag on Magma

Is She a Beauty Mogul or Love Coach? | Guess My Shopify Business Ep.11

<h1><strong>Guess</strong> my hustle!</h1>
<p>Guess my hustle challenges complete strangers to guess a person’s surprising side hustle — celebrating the wildest, weirdest, and coolest sides of the modern gig economy. </p>
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<p>My advice for anyone thinking about starting a side hustle or business is just to START. There is never a good time, you will always be busy and you don’t need to go from 0 to 💯. </p>
<p>Start small and slowly build your empire. The average millionaire has 7 income streams, so don’t feel like you are stuck to your 9-5. </p>
<p>I started my side hustle as a Love Coach &amp; Relationship Expert while simultaneously running an international Pheromone brand. I knew I wanted to help people on another level. </p>
<p>If I can do it, so can you 👊🏼</p>

Guess my hustle  — @undefined's mag on Magma

<h1>If you’re single on Vday </h1>
<p>♥ The best person to love is yourself. Focus on a night of pampering YOU. Watch your favorite movie, take a bubble bath with candles, and order your favorite takeout. It's difficult to be alone on a day that is centered around love, but if you focus on self love you can make it a fun and enjoyable night!</p>
<p>♥ Make plans with your single friends! Plan a night of cocktails, games, good food and friends. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good. This will help you not feel the loneliness and also have an amazing night!</p>

<h1>Last minute date ideas </h1>
<p>1. Watch rom coms and order in </p>
<p>2. Make a new dish together </p>
<p>3. Have a game night </p>
<p>4. Have a boozy picnic at sunset </p>
<p>5. Go to a comedy club</p>

Vday Tips! — @undefined's mag on Magma

Kauai

<h1>Self Care Challenge</h1>
<p><strong>See how many you can do this week:</strong></p>
<p>1. Organize your wardrobe </p>
<p>2. Do something nice for someone</p>
<p>3. Call someone you love </p>
<p>4. Cook something new </p>
<p>5. Go on a hike </p>
<p>6. Stretch</p>
<p>7. Wear feel good outfits</p>
<p>8. Do a face mask </p>
<p>9. Spend time with someone inspiring</p>
<p>10. Do a digital detox</p>

Self Care Challenge  — @undefined's mag on Magma

<h2>Do you receive acts of kindness from your significant other as expected as part of your relationship?</h2>
<p>Relationships are constant work. </p>
<p>When you’ve been in one for several years, you often forget to appreciate things your partner does for you. In turn, they may end up feeling resentful and unappreciated because they put thought into the nice things they do for you. </p>
<p>People need validation. It feels good to know you’re appreciated, loved, and accepted. Don’t forget to tell your partner how much you appreciate all they do for you on a daily basis! </p>

Love & Appreciation  — @undefined's mag on Magma

<p><strong>Fall in love with yourself again this holiday season.</strong></p>
<p>In today’s age of technology we are so focused on other people that we forget to do things to nurture our own souls. </p>
<p>Whether you’re single, dating, or married we can always use some much needed “me time.” Spend time alone in a way that allows you to get to know and love yourself, practice self-care and increase your self-confidence. </p>
<p>Because when you know yourself, you love and believe in yourself and can do ANYTHING you set your mind to 👊🏼</p>

Achieve your desires... — @undefined's mag on Magma

<h1>Are you ready to date?</h1>
<h2>If your answer is yes to these questions you are!</h2>
<p>1. Are you over your ex?</p>
<p>2. Do you know the qualities of the person you are looking for?</p>
<p>3. Do you know what you have to offer to the relationship?</p>
<p>4. Are you able to make a commitment?</p>
<p>5. Do you have the confidence to approach someone you’re attracted to? </p>
<p>6.Do you love yourself unconditionally?</p>

How to know when you’re ready to date again.  — @undefined's mag on Magma

Build trust with Acro Yoga — @undefined's mag on Magma

    <h1>1. Comment about something pleasant&nbsp;</h1>

    <p>Commenting<span style="font-size: 1rem; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;">&nbsp;about something pleasant, such as a song that's being played nearby that you and the other person can hear, a popular movie on a visible billboard, or even your surroundings can all be ways to open the door for conversation. Just do your best to avoid commenting about the weather; it's more than a little cliché.</span></p>

    <h1>2. Ask their opinion on something</h1>

    <p><span style="font-size: 1rem; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;">People generally love to give their opinions. Asking a person about what they think about a topic will almost always elicit a response.</span><br></p>

    <h1>3. Complement their appearance&nbsp;</h1>

    <p><span style="font-size: 1rem; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;">&nbsp;Telling someone they’re beautiful or handsome is a lot like talking about the weather - it doesn't really convey that you’ve put much thought into what you have to say. Instead, compliment your new friend’s necktie or a piece of jewelry. People like compliments and if they happen to be wearing something truly noteworthy, you can easily start a conversation about it.</span><br></p>

3 foolproof icebreakers  — @undefined's mag on Magma

    <h1>If You Want To Have A Successful Relationship, These 8 Awkward Conversations May Be Necessary</h1>
    <h2>By: Jordan Bisell</h2><p>Hey guys! Check out my feature in Bustle: <a href="https://bit.ly/2EEFYq8">https://bit.ly/2EEFYq8</a></p><p>Here are some expert-recommended conversations to have with your partner to keep your relationship going strong.</p><p><b>1. Past Hurts, Disappointments, And Traumas</b></p><p><b></b></p><p>You may be familiar with the rule to never talk about your exes on a first date, but once you’re in a committed relationship, that no longer applies, Tracy K. Ross, LCSW, a relationship therapist in NYC, tells Bustle. In order for your relationship to grow deeper, it’s important to talk candidly about the most difficult parts of your past, she says. It can be hard to share stories about your painful memories, but creating an open dialogue early on can make this a little bit easier.</p><p>“If there is a feeling that you will really be listened to without judgement you are more likely to bring it up,” Ross says, “so tell your partner you really are available to for difficult conversations and will listen and not offer interpretations or suggestions.” Instead of offering unsolicited “solutions” for something your partner is struggling with, be sure to listen closely and remind them that these stories are safe with you.</p><p><b>2. What You Each Need Sexually</b></p><p>“Sex is an important part of a relationship, and although many people wish their partner would just know or figure out what they want, that is an unrealistic expectation,” says Ross. If you and your partner are sexually active, sleeping together is a primary source of connection between you, Ross says. While it will likely become more comfortable to talk about what you want in bed the longer you are together, if it’s not addressed openly and made a priority, you and your partner might assume you aren’t sexually compatible when you’re actually just not being direct.</p><p><b>3. What Counts As Cheating</b></p><p>For some people, flirting with someone else might seem like cheating. For someone else, kissing other people may be totally fine. Instead of waiting for one of you to cross a line, go ahead and have a clear discussion about where your boundaries are as a couple, Robyn Vogel, MA, LMHC, a licensed mental health counselor and couples coach at Come Back To Love, tells Bustle. “Decisions about boundaries are important,” she says. “They provide couples with a guidepost for their relationship.” That way, if you ever encounter a situation where one of you breaks one of these standards, you won’t have to argue about whether or not it was inappropriate.</p><p><b>4. What Makes A Relationship Good</b></p><p>It may seem totally unromantic, but having a conversation about what each of you specifically wants in order to continue the relationship is important for securing a stable future, sex and relationships therapist Cyndi Darnell tells Bustle.</p><p><span style="font-size: 1rem; -webkit-text-size-adjust: 100%;">Don’t use Jim and Pam from The Office or Elio and Oliver from Call Me By Your Name as your standards for true love though. Darnell says that it’s important not to compare your own relationship goals to fantasy, but to instead look at couples who you admire in your own community. Ask, “what makes them great?” and, “what qualities do these partners embody that you actively see in their relationship style?” Darnell says.</span></p><p><b>5. Discussions About Finances</b></p><p>It’s been said that you should never talk about religion, money, or politics in polite company. When it comes to your relationship, that rule couldn’t be further from the truth. Sex and relationship therapist Candice Cooper-Lovett, PhD, LMFT tells Bustle that finances are definitely something you and your partner should touch base on. If you’re having trouble figuring out how to do that, try creating what she calls “pulse check meetings.” Whether you want to set aside time once a week or twice a month, Dr. Cooper-Lovett says that scheduling an intention space for conversations about what’s going well and areas of growth and improvement can be helpful for bringing up difficult subjects with your partner.</p><p><b>6. Whether Or Not You Want Children</b></p><p>If you and your partner aren’t on the same page about whether you want a house full of kids, no kids at all, or something in between, you could end up with a lot of built up resentment down the line, certified love coach and relationship expert Jacqui Rubinoff, tells Bustle. “There are already enough challenges that come up in relationships as it is, so you want to make sure your core fundamental values are aligned so you can go through life on the same team,” she says.</p><p>This may seem like a scary topic to bring up, especially if your relationship is still pretty new, but Rubinoff says that talking about this soon is much better than waiting until you’ve been together for a long time to broach the subject. “You can casually bring it up over a glass of wine at your apartment or somewhere comfortable,” Rubinoff says. Just make sure that you are both relaxed and have each other’s full attention. “If you are meant to be, it should go smoothly if you are both on the same page."</p><p><b>7. Family Dynamics</b></p><p>Even if neither you nor your partner have family members living nearby, opening up about your family histories is important to growing as a couple, Cora Boyd, a dating coach in Seattle, tells Bustle. “Your relationship with your family is hugely formative for how you approach any kind of intimate interpersonal relationship,” she says. Talking about family politics can be complicated, painful, or even embarrassing, but opening up about them helps you both know each other more deeply. In order to do this effectively, be clear about why you want to talk about it at the beginning of your conversation, Boyd says. This helps you and your partner start on the same page and keep the line of communication open.</p><p><b>8. Religious Beliefs Or Non-Beliefs</b></p><p>“Even moderate faith will play a part in you or your partner's daily life,” certified relationship expert Adina Mahalli, MSW, tells Bustle. It’s definitely possible to have a healthy mixed-religion relationship, but being open with each other early on is key to avoiding issues moving forward, she says. If you attend religious services, set aside time for prayer, or just feel that spirituality is an important part of who you are, be intentional about sharing that with your partner.</p><p>“When talking about something that you and your partner will potentially disagree on, it’s important to not just disregard what they’re saying,” Mahalli says. “You need to validate their point of view. That doesn’t mean that you agree but acknowledging that you see where they’re coming from can lay the foundation for open communication.” This conversation can even present the perfect opportunity to talk about your individual journeys before you met, so that you get even closer than before.</p><p>No matter how uncomfortable it might seem to really get into a convo about cheating or potential kids, the momentary awkwardness could really pay off. Once you've broached these sensitive topics, your relationship with your partner is sure to be deeper than ever.</p>